Parents should know it…!!

Parents should know it…!!

Favoritism among children….an Injustice indeed….“Verily, Allah enjoins justice, and doing good, and giving (help) to kith and kin.” (Surah an-Nahl:90).

Justice must be maintained in everything, even in how often we look at or speak to each of our children. The following Hadeeth shows us how important it is to avoid favoritism when dealing with our kids. Nu’maan ibn Basheer said: “My father gave me a gift of some of his wealth, but my mother, ‘Amrah bint Rawaahah, said, ‘I will not approve of it until you ask the Messenger of Allaah (Sal Allaahu Alaiyhi wa Sallam) to bear witness to it.’ So my father went to the Prophet (Sal Allaahu Alaiyhi wa Sallam) to ask him to bear witness to the gift. The Messenger of Allaah (Sal Allaahu Alaiyhi wa Sallam) said to him, ‘Have you done the same for all of your children?’ He said, ‘No.’ He said, ‘Fear Allaah and treat your children justly.’ So my father came back and took back that gift.”[Sahîh al-Bukhârî (2587) and Sahîh Muslim (1623)]

In fact, it is one of the rights of our children that we treat them equally. The Prophet (Sal Allaahu Alaiyhi wa Sallam) said: “Your children have the right of receiving equal treatment, as you have the right that they should honor you.” (Abu Dawoud)

And he (Sal Allaahu Alaiyhi wa Sallam) also said: “Do justice among your sons (kids),’ and repeated it thrice.” (Muslim)
Therefore, the Muslim parent is the one who fears Allaah in his dealings with his children, one who is just in his speech and judgments. His sayings, actions and dealings with his children are based upon justice with no degree of discrimination or preference. Children’s first love is their parents don’t leave miserable print of love on their mind. Treat them equally and love them don’t compare one kid with another all kids have different capabilities, give them respect so that they will love you more.. Just a reminder..