What Has Been Related About Being Polite !
Aisha(radhi Allahu anha) narrated:
"A man sought permission to enter upon the Messenger of Allah(sallallahu alaihi wasallam) while I was with him, so he said: 'What an evil son of his tribe, or brother of his tribe.' Then he admitted him and spoke with him. When he left, I said: 'O Messenger of Allah! You said what you said about him. Then you talked politely with him?' He(sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) said: 'O 'Aishah! Indeed among the evillest of people are those whom the people avoid, or who the people leave, fearing his filthy speech.'"
"A man sought permission to enter upon the Messenger of Allah(sallallahu alaihi wasallam) while I was with him, so he said: 'What an evil son of his tribe, or brother of his tribe.' Then he admitted him and spoke with him. When he left, I said: 'O Messenger of Allah! You said what you said about him. Then you talked politely with him?' He(sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) said: 'O 'Aishah! Indeed among the evillest of people are those whom the people avoid, or who the people leave, fearing his filthy speech.'"
Jami` at-Tirmidhi 1996.
Indeed, it's quite become intolerable to be as politest as possible for any person to behave and treat the person who is considered as evil or bad.The above hadith give us a lesson to remain in a boundary of patience when we are encountered with such situation.Subhan Allah, such was the perfect and sweetest behaviour of our beloved prophet Muhammed(sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) was shown to the man who was considered as evillest kind of man.
Now turn the focus on us - We ummah (his{sallallahu alaihi wa sallam's} followers, rarely show this kind of patience and tolerance in us if some clashes happen between us and we end up putting up our EGO on peak of the mountain ,cutting off ties with our friends, relatives, etc etc., during such clashes. Thus, not letting our mood affect the way we TREAT is a sunnah and a best remedy to counteract or stop fitnah or clashes.
Now, let's give a light to the last part of the hadith mentioned above : The message " Indeed among the evillest of people are those whom the people avoid, or who the people leave, fearing his filthy speech.' meant that if some people avoiding you fearing the rude/ disgusting behaviour/manner you give to others ,showing no respect , no gentle attitude and people just go away leaving you CONCERNING your bad attitude(which gives hurt by tongue(bad mouthing/foul language/abusive/hateful speech) then such kind of person is * 'evillest'.
Be humble, be polite, be not arrogant !
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