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Khadijah raḍyAllāhu 'anha (may Allāh be pleased with her) was reported to be older than the Prophet ṣallallāhu 'alayhi wa sallam (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him), but our beloved Rasul ṣallallāhu 'alayhi wa sallam(peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him) was not repulsed in the slightest by that fact, nor did he call into question her fertility or subtly suggested that she was past her prime.
To my fellow young brothers seeking marriage, ask yourself an honest question. If a sister were to offer you a proposal, and she was wealthier, more educated, and more accomplished than you, but older as well and previously widowed (or divorced) with children, would you seriously consider that proposal? And would your family approve or be supportive of that kind of proposal?
It's not surprising if your answer is no – and perhaps you have some legitimate concerns, but I would wager that most brothers would probably reject that proposal in a heartbeat because that's not the kind of woman they or their parents envision when they think of the ideal spouse.
But if the question is reworded to, “Would you consider a proposal from Khadijah raḍyAllāhu 'anha (may Allāh be pleased with her)?” the answer suddenly changes – what brother would say no to this hypothetical, out of reverence for one of the most honored mothers of our ummah - but considering the previous question asked, this answer feels disingenuous because truthfully, in our day and age, women with the same disposition as Khadijah raḍyAllāhu 'anha (may Allāh be pleased with her) have immense difficulty trying to marry.
Place yourself in the mindset of a young Muḥammad ṣallallāhu 'alayhi wa sallam (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him) and for just this moment consider how radically different his sunnah was from the current stigmatization of sisters in the same position as Khadijah
Khadijah raḍyAllāhu 'anha (may Allāh be pleased with her) was reported to be older than the Prophet ṣallallāhu 'alayhi wa sallam (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him), but our beloved Rasul ṣallallāhu 'alayhi wa sallam(peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him) was not repulsed in the slightest by that fact, nor did he call into question her fertility or subtly suggested that she was past her prime.
To my fellow young brothers seeking marriage, ask yourself an honest question. If a sister were to offer you a proposal, and she was wealthier, more educated, and more accomplished than you, but older as well and previously widowed (or divorced) with children, would you seriously consider that proposal? And would your family approve or be supportive of that kind of proposal?
It's not surprising if your answer is no – and perhaps you have some legitimate concerns, but I would wager that most brothers would probably reject that proposal in a heartbeat because that's not the kind of woman they or their parents envision when they think of the ideal spouse.
But if the question is reworded to, “Would you consider a proposal from Khadijah raḍyAllāhu 'anha (may Allāh be pleased with her)?” the answer suddenly changes – what brother would say no to this hypothetical, out of reverence for one of the most honored mothers of our ummah - but considering the previous question asked, this answer feels disingenuous because truthfully, in our day and age, women with the same disposition as Khadijah raḍyAllāhu 'anha (may Allāh be pleased with her) have immense difficulty trying to marry.
Place yourself in the mindset of a young Muḥammad ṣallallāhu 'alayhi wa sallam (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him) and for just this moment consider how radically different his sunnah was from the current stigmatization of sisters in the same position as Khadijah
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