34 WAYS TO RESPECT OUR PARENTS

✦ 34 WAYS TO RESPECT OUR PARENTS ✦

The Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ) reinforced the duty to be kind to parents. A companion of the Prophet once asked him which of the many good deeds a man can do is the most loved by Allah. The Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ) answered him by saying, “To offer the prayer in its proper time”. The companion then asked, “And what is next?” to which The Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ) replied, “To be good and dutiful to your parents…”. The responsibility to be kind and good to parents comes right after the greatest duty in Islam, the prayer.

☛ This applies to me as well.May Allah give us sense of ability to follow these guidelines. Ameen!!

1. Put away your phone in their presence
2. Pay attention to what they are saying
3. Accept their opinions
4. Engage in their conversations
5. Look at them with respect
6. Always praise them
7. Share good new with them
8. Avoid sharing bad news with them
9. Speak well of their friends and loved ones to them.
10. Keep in remembrance the good things they did.
11. If they repeat a story, listen like it's the first time they tell it.
12. Don't bring up painful memories from the past
13. Avoid side conversations in their presence.
14. Sit respectfully around them
15. Don't belittle/criticize their opinions and thoughts
16. Avoid cutting them off when they speak
17. Respect their age
18. Avoid hitting/disciplining their grandchildren around them
19. Accept their advice and direction
20. Give them the power of leadership when they are present
21. Avoid raising your voice at them
22. Avoid walking in front or ahead of them
23. Avoid eating before them
24. Avoid glaring at them
25. Fill them with pride even when they don't think they deserve it.
26. Avoid putting your feet up in front of them.
27. Don't speak ill of them to the point where others speak ill of them too
28. Keep them in your prayers whenever possible
29. Avoid seeming bored or tired of them in their presence
30. Avoid laughing at their faults/mistakes
31. Do a task before they ask you to
32. Continuously visit them
33. Choose your words carefully when speaking with them
34. Make them your priority above anything

☛ Allah Almighty Says in Holy Quran: “And your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him. And that you be dutiful to your parents. If one of them or both of them attain old age in your life, say not to them a word of disrespect, nor shout at them but address them in terms of honor. And lower to them the wing of humility out of mercy and say, "My Lord, have mercy upon them as they brought me up when I was small.” [Surah Al Isra 17:23 & 24].

☛ Allah Almighty Says in Holy Quran: “And We have enjoined upon man [care] for his parents. His mother carried him, increasing her in weakness upon weakness, and his weaning is in two years. Be grateful to Me and to your parents; to Me is the final destination." [Surah Luqman 31:14].

☛ Abu Hurairah (May Allah Pleased with Him), a companion of the holy Prophet, has said that "a person is indeed disgraced, who does not earn Paradise by caring for his parents during the life time and old age of his/her parents".

Parents are treasure on this land and sooner than you think, that treasure will be buried. Appreciate your parents while you still can.

☛ "O Allah, Please Bless every parent with Great Health and many blessings in their life in this world and hereafter. O Allah, forgive their sins and please give us patience, so our parents will be happy with us. Ameen!!!"